How to Control Everything in One Easy Step

After I got divorced and got back out on the dating scene (after some much needed healing time), I could not wait to find the perfect man. I wrote out a list for God, cause I wanted to put out in the universe exactly what I wanted. I also imagined just how I would meet this man - he’d see me doing something really independent like cutting my grass or something, and he’d be so impressed, he’d come over and introduce himself and we’d just fall in love. I have a sweet friend who imagines meeting someone at the grocery store… they’d both be reaching for the Romaine lettuce at the same time and they’d connect over their mutual healthy food choices! You see, I had it in my head that I knew exactly what I wanted and I would manifest it & it would all come to fruition and everything would be perfect, once it happened exactly the way I imagined. I left no room for anything except my own imaginings. But the problem is, I’m not perfect and I don’t know everything.

So what happens when I control everything, because I know how i want it to be, but I actually end up making it worse? What if I get that job I just know is perfect for me and I prayed so hard over, but it turns out to have the boss from hell? What if I make it happen to where I find my “dream” partner because I know how I want to meet him, so I totally miss my actual dreamboat because I was so busy focusing on how I thought it should happen, instead of turning it over and letting God bring Mr. Dreamboat to me? What happens when I am so busy controlling everything that happens at work because I know the best way for everything to get done, but I make everyone around me miserable? Sound familiar? You either are this person or you know this person.

Being in control feels good. But, sit down before you read this, I’m going to tell you how to control everything… in one easy step. You ready? Take a deep breath because this will change your life. You can’t. You never will, & you never have. Even when you are controlling what time you go to the grocery store to meet Mr. Romaine, you might’ve missed him an hour ago. Or he gets a flat tire and never makes it.

So, sit down, breathe deeply, and try to enjoy your life - because you don’t control any of it. And you’ll enjoy it a lot more when you stop trying to put everything on your own shoulders.

(Ending thought - we are in control of how we respond to things, though often we are not in control of what happens to us. Keep that in mind, and make wise decisions for how you respond to something… because that is about all that you actually can control).